Tonight, after rafting, I stood in front of the mirror for a long time re-twisting my extensions into my hair. I was told it would come out with swimming, and he was right. I stared and twisted and flipped hair this way and that while waiting for my shower to heat up. I listened to my roommates laughing and talking and I smelled the white Nile on my body – the smell of elephants bathing, and African children bathing naked, old men fishing, crocodiles swimming where you’re not allowed to get out of the raft, reeds, bird poop, wild rapids, sun and rain showers with lightning sheets and fish that the Ugandan men catch in a net by pounding into the water with their dark bodies rising and falling with the weight of huge instruments meant to scare the fish.
Standing and twisting I thought about Mathias, and Marvin. I thought about the little village boy who asks if he can give me his brother, and the little boy that I saw on the edge of the Nile wearing an old ripped up sweatshirt while I was wet and shivering. He smiled this brilliant smile, touched my arm and said “You collld!” and I nodded, and pinched his arm affectionately – “you are warm.” He grinned and nodded and said “Yes, I am wam!” Then the little girls who stared while I told them their dresses were pretty – and let their brothers translate – old, ripped fabric with dark African patterns that must have been perfect at one point – but now in blends in with their skin and their knotted hair, their faces and their swollen bellies.
And, oh! Am I tired of swollen bellies.
As I knotted and twisted I thought “I could stay. I could stay for the summer and pray for a car in the fall. Or I could take a year off. I really could just stay.” And I let myself linger on that for a while, tying my hair up so it wouldn’t get wet in the shower. And then, warm water hitting my cold face and my cold arms, and my body that smelled of dead fish and elephant baths, I thought “my travel toothpaste is almost gone.” And then “my malaria pills…” and then “my money.” And “they have no room in the guest house, it’s booked for the summer. I have to go.”
I thought of Diana walking through the great big glass doors in her airport in Canada, and how she talks of that being the best part of coming home. And she’s right – looking and seeing the faces you love for the first time, those faces you need – and being in Diana’s home airport sends shivers down her spine, like SMF sends shivers down mine. But I fly into JFK, so it feels a little foreign still. I thought about sitting drinking coffee with my mother, and hugging my dad, and hearing my brothers make Chuck Norris jokes, and smelling my house – instead of African BO, and I thought of climbing up on a couch next to my boyfriend and feeling him hug my shoulder – and I realized that I miss home, and I want the first glimpses of it.
But Africa’s ruined me – and I’m not wanting to go home to stay. And if someone handed me the opportunity – I’d stay here. I’d stay and I’d learn from these women, and I’d live with my friends, and I’d love on these children, and I would push myself to learn what it is to be away from home for longer.
But that’s not what He’s asking now, is it? He asks that I get in Abdulla’s taxi in the morning, and I drive two hours to the airport, and I check into security, and I fly into Heathrow terminal 4 – and then JFK – sleep in the car – stumble to my bedroom.
That’s what He’s asking.
Last night, after our white water experience on the Nile – going down a 5 meter waterfall backwards, flipping on purpose, learning when to get down and when to hold on, and hearing that we were at the “mecca” of white water rafting, and every trip after this would disappoint us, because the Nile is deep and you can ride class 5 rapids without rocks – Marlee and I met a man from Passion. He was wearing a volunteer shirt, and I said, “hey, we volunteered at Passion too!” He stood up and we started talking. He told us what he’s doing here, and how he’s been up North where the LRA has been: the destruction he’s seen. He gave us ideas of where to go and how to minister – and I knew both our heads were swimming with ideas and regrets, and wishing we could stay. Then, he said something that put all my emotions under the hand of Christ, and told them “Stop. Submit.” He said, “but, hey, don’t fall under the heaviness of the weight of the tyranny of urgency.”
My jaw must have dropped. I stared at him and he continued - “you’re young. And when I was 19 or 20 I thought I had to get everything done that moment, and start doing everything exactly right for Christ, and go do missions exactly how He would call for the rest of my life – and then someone told me that I was young, and I could rest in Him. And to relax. See, Christ calls you for rest – because His burden is easy – He doesn’t call you to give you the kind of ministry or responsibility that makes you worry and fret and think about getting everything done today. Do you see?”
I thanked him, and told him the truth – that I had needed what he said because I was falling under that weight.
I’m already crying and it’s only 9 in the morning. Pray for my heart. I don’t know what’s He’s calling to – but it’s wrecking my insides, and making me willing for when He says “come” and when He says “stay.”
More pictures of my kids to come later today…